I am so excited to be writing my first book review today! And I’m even more excited to be starting with a debut novel in my favorite genre: memoir. And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready is a memoir about Meaghan O’Connell’s (unplanned) pregnancy and first year of motherhood. O’Connell is a twenty-something writer living in New York City with her fiancé when she finds herself unexpectedly pregnant.
I loved this book so much. I downloaded it on my iPad and only read it in small chunks because I wanted to savor it. It is so honest and so brave. And although my experience with my first pregnancy was completely different than O’Connell’s, I still found pieces of my journey within hers. The book also opened my eyes to postpartum depression in a completely new way and made me wonder how many women suffer from PPD (or postpartum anxiety) without realizing it. This book is not exactly a feel-good celebration of motherhood. She discusses it all: considering abortion, birth plans gone wrong, the ups and downs of breastfeeding, postpartum sex and, perhaps the scariest topic of all, making “mom friends.” But I still felt proud to be a mother when I turned the last page.
I recommend this book for those who love raw, honest memoirs, especially those about childbirth and motherhood. However, I would advise first time moms to wait until after their first year of motherhood is over to read this one (with a celebratory glass of wine in hand). I say that because this book, particularly O’Connell’s birth story, could be a little frightening for those who have yet to experience it. I wouldn’t want her unique situation to scare anyone. But if you’re one of those pregnant women who wants to hear all of the stories, good, bad and ugly, then definitely pick it up!
Have any of you read this one? I would love to hear your reviews!