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Life Update // February 2017

Ruth 3:18

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Isn’t it amazing how the Bible always has a verse that perfectly sums up our situation? A lot happened in the 8 month (unplanned) break I took from blogging. My little family moved from Harrisonburg, Virginia to Ashburn, Virginia (my hometown) in August. We moved here with the plans that I would sit for the Virginia Bar Exam this month, my husband would start a new career and we would plant our roots near my family so that Harper could be closer to her cousins. There are five granddaughters on my side of the family plus one on the way (!) and we all live within 10 minutes of each other so Harper has so many little people to play with and grow up with.

In November, we enrolled Harper in a Montessori School and I started studying for the bar. It was going well until the holidays rolled around followed by Harper’s birthday. I was so distracted! On top of all of that, Harper has been sick pretty much every other week since the Fall. Needless to say, I wasn’t getting much studying done. After much deliberation, prayer and seeking counsel from Sam and my family, I decided to delay the bar exam until I can focus better. I’m hoping I can sit for the exam in July, but I don’t want to lock myself into it just yet. I spoke to a prominent DC lawyer and former law professor when I was trying to make the decision and he reminded me that the bar exam will always be there, but Harper won’t always be a baby. Since I don’t have a law firm job waiting for me, there’s really no need to rush to take it. (more…)

 

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Today, Sam and I started a Bible in 90 Days reading challenge with our church. Yup, you read that right. We have pledged to read the entire bible, cover to cover, in 90 days. I love to read so I’m not really worried about the reading aspect of it. I’m mostly worried about the commitment part. I don’t think I’ve ever stuck with anything for 90 whole days and I’m ashamed to say that I have never maintained a bible reading schedule for 90 days straight. But more than anything, I’m excited about what God is going to do in me, in our marriage, and in our church during the next three months. I truly believe that God’s word, though written so long ago, is just as relevant today as it was then. I believe that once I finally dig into it, I will find direction and hope and peace and every other good thing I’ve been searching for in this life. It’s going to be awesome.

Why don’t you join us?! Download the YouVersion bible app, if you don’t have it already, and start the 90 day reading plan. You can also download this reading plan bookmark if you’d prefer to read from a bible you already have (this is what I’m doing). Or if you need a new bible, you can buy the actual Bible in 90 Days Bible. Try to get a few friends to join you. Accountability and community are crucial for a challenge like this! If you decide to join the challenge, let me know in the comments! I’ll be checking in here and on social media throughout the challenge and I hope you will too. Remember to start today so you don’t get behind! The challenge ends on Sunday, August 30th.

like newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation…

1 Peter 2:2

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On Doing It All

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During my last few semesters of law school, I worked as a part-time nanny for a family of six: two parents, two girls, and two boys. When I started, the kids were all under the age of five. Right now, some of you are thinking “Whoa…those people are crazy! No wonder they needed a nanny!” but let me assure you, they didn’t really need me. They have an absolute rock-star mom. She’s that mom who bakes homemade bread for the peanut butter and jelly sandwiches she feeds her children. Her kids know what foods like lamb and asparagus are and they actually eat them. She homeschools her two oldest. She makes time for at least one date night with her husband each week, every week. She does all of this and still has time to take care of herself. And above all, she is one of the best people I have ever met in my life. She is warm and fun and gives so much and loves God with all of her heart. It is no coincidence that I met her just a few months before I got engaged. God wanted me to have a real-life example of the wife and mother I hoped to become. I could not be more thankful for the time I spent with that family.

After a year and a half of observing and practicing, I got married and was unpleasantly surprised to find that doing it “all” didn’t come naturally to me. I love to cook, but I have trouble motivating myself to do it more than twice a week. I love a clean house, but after I’ve finished the laundry and the dishes I have serious trouble talking myself into cleaning the bathrooms. It seems like I never have enough hours in a day to finish everything I want to accomplish while still making time for my husband. And when I have to admit to him that things didn’t get done, I feel like I’m failing as a wife. I start wondering (panicking about) how I’m going to manage when we expand our family. But it’s not Sam who is making me feel that way. It’s me. I’m mad at myself for not trying hard enough. For getting complacent. For resigning myself to the fact that I can’t do it all. But isn’t “all” relative?

I’ve lost count of the amount of women I’ve spoken to who have discouraged me from even trying. They give me tips on how to accomplish some things, but they remind me (rightfully so) not to compare myself to women like the one described above. She’s just a special case. “Real” women can’t be expected to do all of that (what does this even mean?). It’s 2015! Today’s women are too busy working to cook or clean. They’re too busy running the world. But what about our moms and aunts and grandmothers? They did everything. They raised more kids than most of us will. Some of them worked multiple jobs. They sang in their church choirs and sat on committees. And they fed what must have seemed like an army every single night. Of course, times have changed. But what would happen if we tried to emulate them just a little bit?

What would happen if we gave ourselves a healthy dose of grace and jumped right in? What if we made it our mission to only serve home-cooked meals during the week? What if we promised to deep clean at least one room in our homes each day? What if we scheduled a date night with our husbands and a game night with our families each week? What if we took up a new hobby that would benefit our families while also giving us some quiet time (like sewing or baking)? What if we hired a babysitter for a few hours each week so we could get our hair and nails done? I’m willing to bet that we would wake up at the end of the week feeling fulfilled, refreshed, more beautiful and maybe even a little proud of ourselves. Every week won’t be perfect, and some things will inevitably fall through the cracks, but we’ll sleep better at night knowing that we did everything we could do to make it all happen.

So instead of rolling our eyes when we see a woman who seems to have figured out how to balance 15 things at a time and make it look easy, we should seek her out. Ask questions, exchange recipes, share babysitters, hold each other accountable and, most importantly, celebrate each other. Because we’re all amazing and we really can do it all.

Just maybe not all at once.

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Wise Words // Believe The Impossible

f57897992ed401d3cb03f2653fb448c5I love love love this quote and thought it was the perfect quote to share going into a brand new week. Although this quote is actually from Carroll’s book Through The Looking-Glass, I think it applies perfectly today. Whether it’s believing that you will finally launch your small business this year or something as simple as believing that you will finally be able to conquer your sugar addiction (I’m clearly talking to myself with that one), the first step is allowing yourself to believe that the things that seem impossible are possible. Release yourself to dream, to plan and to believe this week!

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Disconnect to Reconnect

JerrellSamEng-0097I have a slight problem when it comes to my iPhone and iPad. You can usually find at least one of them in my hand. I’m either checking Instagram, pinning yet another dessert, or reading a blog or a book on my iPad. When I lived alone, I never noticed (ignored?) this problem, but lately, I’ve found that my husband has to literally stand in front of my face and/or remove the mobile device from my hands to get my full attention. I love my husband dearly and I never want him to feel like he comes second to anyone or anything. I know that we can’t just sit and cuddle twenty-four hours a day, but when he’s home, and we’re both free, I can make an effort to give him my full attention – even if it’s only for an hour. This week, we set some new house rules. The first one, and the one I’ll be focusing on this weekend, is to go phone-free in the evenings. We’ve also instituted a weekly “date night in”: one night a week where we ignore our phones and the television, pour some wine, and cook a new recipe together. I got the idea from Ashley at Not Without Salt and I am so excited!

For this week’s Highlights, I’m not posting any links or talking about any online sales. Today, I want to encourage you to disconnect from the virtual world and reconnect with your families and friends. Whether that means going on a date with your significant other, planning a family game night with your kids, or hosting a phones-free brunch with your girlfriends, do whatever it takes to reconnect.

Happy Weekend!

photo taken by Katie Lopez during our engagement session

 

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