Bumpdate // Week 9 (take two)

8w6d ultrasound 1 copyThis week has certainly been one for the books! Because of a tiny scare in the beginning of the week, we had an early ultrasound yesterday. Thankfully, we had nothing to worry about! More importantly, we saw our little nugget for the first time AND heard his/her heartbeat. I could’ve listened to that sound all day long. Isn’t it so crazy how differently you view an ultrasound picture once it’s your baby? It was such a relief to see our baby and know that he/she is healthy and thriving! I did receive some slightly unfortunate news though: I’m a week behind what we originally thought. So I have a new February due date and I have to do week 9 over again. I’m just hoping that doesn’t equal an extra week of morning sickness as well. I’m not going to do a bumpdate survey this week since my last one was on Monday and not much has changed since then. I’ll save the next bumpdate for my real week 10 next Friday.

Happy 4th of July!

 
 

Bumpdate // Week 9

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Time for my second bumpdate! This picture of my wedding shoes and my flower girl’s shoes makes me really want to have a baby girl. I love the idea of incorporating elements from our wedding (like my veil and sash) in her newborn pictures. The photo has nothing to do with this bumpdate, but I keep forgetting to ask Sam to take a picture of me so it’s all I’ve got today. I don’t really have a bump yet anyway. Just tons of bloat! So here’s what’s happening this week…

How far along are you? 9 weeks and 3 days.

How big is baby? The size of a grape (or an olive). Just under an inch long and not even a full ounce yet.

Total weight gain? 5 pounds – which slightly stresses me out because I’ve been advised (based on my pre-pregnancy weight) to keep my weight gain between 20-25 pounds. I’m trying not to worry about it too much until after I get through the first trimester and want to eat something other than carbs all day everyday.

How are you feeling? Still gross. I’m nauseous most days from the time I get out of bed until about 5pm. I’m powering through it the best that I can. I can’t get rid of this runny/stuffy nose I got a few weeks back which is more annoying than anything else. I’ve been getting slight headaches more often lately as well. And I am always hot which makes me very thankful that I’m having a Winter baby!

What are you wearing a lot of lately? Leggings and flowy tops. I only have one pair of boyfriend jeans that are still semi-comfortable (thanks to my bloated belly) so I reach for leggings most days. I borrowed a pair of H&M stretchy harem pants from my mom last week and I’ll probably live in those for the next few months as well. I’m excited to have an actual baby bump so I can wear more fitted tops and dresses without worrying that I just look like I put on a lot of newlywed weight.

Have you noticed any stretch marks yet? No yet, but I’ve already started slathering on Burt’s Bees Mama Bee Nourishing Body Oil and Belly Butter every day after I shower. There are so many other belly oils and butters I want to try, but I figured I’d go with a cheaper product in the beginning when my skin isn’t stretching too much.

How’s your sleep? Not great at all. Like I said above, I’m always hot so I toss and turn all night trying to find a cool spot on my pillow. Overall, I’m uncomfortable because I feel…heavier. I even have to sleep with a pillow in between my legs already. The crazy dreams and frequent bathroom trips definitely aren’t helping either. I didn’t think this would start so early! Does anyone have any tips to help with this?

Food cravings? Cereal (Cinnamon Life mostly) and Pho Chicken. Weird…I know.

Food aversions? Didn’t notice any specific ones this week, but it is getting much more difficult to choose what I want to eat each day because nothing ever sounds good. I blame the nausea.

Best moment this week? Being able to freely talk about the baby and the pregnancy now that everyone knows about it.

What are you looking forward to? My 12 week prenatal appointment where we’ll hear the baby’s heartbeat for the first time!

Any milestones this week? According to The Bump, my baby has graduated from an embryo to a fetus so that’s exciting!

Are there any other questions I should add to my weekly bumpdate survey?

photo by Katie Lopez

 
 

We’re Having A Baby!

10996899_10102457709876579_5653225696854829005_nIf you follow me on Instagram, you’ve probably already heard the big news: Sam and I are expecting our first baby! Just shy of three months into our marriage, and only a month and a half after I wrote this, we got the happiest surprise of our lives! And I’m already counting down the weeks until we get to meet this little nugget.

I will be doing weekly “Bumpdates” on the blog, but I figured I’d lump the first few eight weeks together since they’ve already passed. Speaking of which, I am 8 weeks and 5 days pregnant right now (due at the end of January). To most women, that is insanely early to announce a pregnancy, but for me, keeping the secret only reminded me that something could go wrong. The first week or so, I was terrified that I wasn’t really pregnant or that something would go wrong and I couldn’t let myself go on like that – it wouldn’t be healthy for me or the baby. I also knew that if something did go wrong, I would inevitably end up writing about it anyway. So I chose to step out on faith and outwardly enjoy every moment of my pregnancy, which includes sharing it with all of you from the beginning. So I hope you enjoy following along!

How We Found Out

I went off of my birth control at the end of April, but not because I was trying to get pregnant. I didn’t really like the pill I was on, and Sam and I knew we wanted to start trying at the end of the year, so we agreed to try natural family planning for a few months. I figured it would take a few months for my system to regulate itself so I could figure out my new cycle. Well, obviously my body was ready because 35 days later, I was running into Sam’s office with a positive pregnancy test and a shocked look on my face.

Symptoms

For the first two weeks, my symptoms included heartburn, crazy dreams, sore boobs, bloating and a little cramping. Despite all of that, I still complained to Sam that I didn’t really “feel” pregnant. Well, my baby decided to make his/her presence known during week six when morning sickness struck and I immediately regretted ever complaining. I haven’t had any vomiting (yet), but I pretty much feel carsick every day until about 4pm. I also got a cold during week seven that I’m still trying to get rid of completely. I’m also ALWAYS tired and I yawn about a thousand times a day, but for some reason I’m not sleeping that well. I think it’s all of the crazy dreams. My sense of smell is at an all-time high too. Sometimes I can’t even identify the smell – I just know that I need to get away from it immediately.

Food Cravings and Aversions

I haven’t had too many cravings or aversions. I actually find it really difficult to choose what I want to eat. Usually nothing sounds good, despite my growling stomach. I have noticed that lemonade helps with the nausea. I’m also really into bagels right now. The only food aversions I’ve noticed are fish and anything with a really strong smell. I’ve also noticed that my sweet tooth has diminished greatly. I used to keep tons of candy in the house and now I hardly ever even think about it. I’m also having a really hard time cooking. I don’t know if it’s the fatigue or the fact that I’d like to avoid raw meat at all costs, but we’ve been eating a lot of takeout in the Everett household lately (my poor husband).

I’ll stop there for today so that I can save the rest for my week 9 Bumpdate (on Friday). If you have specific questions or topics you would like me to cover each week, please let me know. I’m really hoping to get back to my regular posts next week as well, now that I can (somewhat) manage the nausea and fatigue. If anyone has any tips or advice on how to power through the workday during the first trimester, leave me a comment. I’d love to hear from you!

 
 

B90

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Today, Sam and I started a Bible in 90 Days reading challenge with our church. Yup, you read that right. We have pledged to read the entire bible, cover to cover, in 90 days. I love to read so I’m not really worried about the reading aspect of it. I’m mostly worried about the commitment part. I don’t think I’ve ever stuck with anything for 90 whole days and I’m ashamed to say that I have never maintained a bible reading schedule for 90 days straight. But more than anything, I’m excited about what God is going to do in me, in our marriage, and in our church during the next three months. I truly believe that God’s word, though written so long ago, is just as relevant today as it was then. I believe that once I finally dig into it, I will find direction and hope and peace and every other good thing I’ve been searching for in this life. It’s going to be awesome.

Why don’t you join us?! Download the YouVersion bible app, if you don’t have it already, and start the 90 day reading plan. You can also download this reading plan bookmark if you’d prefer to read from a bible you already have (this is what I’m doing). Or if you need a new bible, you can buy the actual Bible in 90 Days Bible. Try to get a few friends to join you. Accountability and community are crucial for a challenge like this! If you decide to join the challenge, let me know in the comments! I’ll be checking in here and on social media throughout the challenge and I hope you will too. Remember to start today so you don’t get behind! The challenge ends on Sunday, August 30th.

like newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation…

1 Peter 2:2

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On Doing It All

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During my last few semesters of law school, I worked as a part-time nanny for a family of six: two parents, two girls, and two boys. When I started, the kids were all under the age of five. Right now, some of you are thinking “Whoa…those people are crazy! No wonder they needed a nanny!” but let me assure you, they didn’t really need me. They have an absolute rock-star mom. She’s that mom who bakes homemade bread for the peanut butter and jelly sandwiches she feeds her children. Her kids know what foods like lamb and asparagus are and they actually eat them. She homeschools her two oldest. She makes time for at least one date night with her husband each week, every week. She does all of this and still has time to take care of herself. And above all, she is one of the best people I have ever met in my life. She is warm and fun and gives so much and loves God with all of her heart. It is no coincidence that I met her just a few months before I got engaged. God wanted me to have a real-life example of the wife and mother I hoped to become. I could not be more thankful for the time I spent with that family.

After a year and a half of observing and practicing, I got married and was unpleasantly surprised to find that doing it “all” didn’t come naturally to me. I love to cook, but I have trouble motivating myself to do it more than twice a week. I love a clean house, but after I’ve finished the laundry and the dishes I have serious trouble talking myself into cleaning the bathrooms. It seems like I never have enough hours in a day to finish everything I want to accomplish while still making time for my husband. And when I have to admit to him that things didn’t get done, I feel like I’m failing as a wife. I start wondering (panicking about) how I’m going to manage when we expand our family. But it’s not Sam who is making me feel that way. It’s me. I’m mad at myself for not trying hard enough. For getting complacent. For resigning myself to the fact that I can’t do it all. But isn’t “all” relative?

I’ve lost count of the amount of women I’ve spoken to who have discouraged me from even trying. They give me tips on how to accomplish some things, but they remind me (rightfully so) not to compare myself to women like the one described above. She’s just a special case. “Real” women can’t be expected to do all of that (what does this even mean?). It’s 2015! Today’s women are too busy working to cook or clean. They’re too busy running the world. But what about our moms and aunts and grandmothers? They did everything. They raised more kids than most of us will. Some of them worked multiple jobs. They sang in their church choirs and sat on committees. And they fed what must have seemed like an army every single night. Of course, times have changed. But what would happen if we tried to emulate them just a little bit?

What would happen if we gave ourselves a healthy dose of grace and jumped right in? What if we made it our mission to only serve home-cooked meals during the week? What if we promised to deep clean at least one room in our homes each day? What if we scheduled a date night with our husbands and a game night with our families each week? What if we took up a new hobby that would benefit our families while also giving us some quiet time (like sewing or baking)? What if we hired a babysitter for a few hours each week so we could get our hair and nails done? I’m willing to bet that we would wake up at the end of the week feeling fulfilled, refreshed, more beautiful and maybe even a little proud of ourselves. Every week won’t be perfect, and some things will inevitably fall through the cracks, but we’ll sleep better at night knowing that we did everything we could do to make it all happen.

So instead of rolling our eyes when we see a woman who seems to have figured out how to balance 15 things at a time and make it look easy, we should seek her out. Ask questions, exchange recipes, share babysitters, hold each other accountable and, most importantly, celebrate each other. Because we’re all amazing and we really can do it all.

Just maybe not all at once.

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