one month into motherhood and tired as hell.
When you’re pregnant, you get a ton of advice. Some of it is good, some of it is terrible (and outdated) and most of it you will forget the minute the baby comes. But keep listening because there is no greater resource for a new mom than other moms. If you talk to enough moms, at least one of them has gone through the same situation as you. Your baby wants to nurse for an hour before bed? Been there. Your baby’s poop is mucus-y and weird? Been there. Your baby went through 10 sippy cups before she finally found one she liked? Been there and I’ve got the empty wallet to prove it.
I’ve only been a mother for 13 months so I’m obviously no expert, but I definitely learned some valuable lessons this year. Some were taught to me by other great moms and some I learned on my own. So take them or leave them, but they’re here when you’re up for a middle of the night feeding.
1. Remember that every baby is different. // You will hear this 1,000 times, but it bears repeating. Do not assume that because you’re best friend’s baby slept through the night at 5 weeks old that yours will too. Don’t assume that your baby will love the most popular baby products or the “best” formula on the market. Your baby is unique and so are you. Advice is great and reading books and mom blogs is super important, but always be flexible. I’m a big reader and researcher so I read a ton of books and blogs in the first few months of Harper’s life (when I was constantly breastfeeding and had time to read). In the end, I took bits and pieces of everything I had read, and everything I had heard from other moms, and came up with my own system. (more…)